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Why is forgiveness important in romantic relationships?

In our romantic relationships, it is harmful to our relationship, to our partner and most importantly to ourselves when we are unable to forgive our partner if they have wronged us in some way.

It’s important to remember that even though forgiveness may benefit the other person,  you don’t forgive them for their sake. You forgive for your sake. As we talked about in the last post forgiveness sets you free.

Forgiveness = Freedom.

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EFT: Emotional Freedom Technique For Forgiveness

Another technique that may serve you on your healing and forgiveness journey, is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or tapping.

Tapping or EFT is a great resource for healing and forgiving yourself or others and moving through the negative feelings, thoughts and emotions that may make forgiving someone you love difficult to do.

Tapping/EFT uses acupuncture points on the body’s energy meridians to calm your nervous system. It’s a powerful and effective technique that is so simple and safe it can be used effectively by adults and children!

Not only can Tapping used for emotional healing you can use it for physical healing too. I  used to suffer from bad seasonal allergies, and I used Tapping and now my allergies are almost non-existent!

I admit even being a more spiritually open-minded person I was actually skeptical of EFT at first, and yet it worked in spite of my skepticism.

I also use EFT to help with anxiety and stress and it can also be used for depression. Many people have also had positive experiences using Tapping/EFT to help with PTSD.

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Healing physical and emotional trauma with EFT:

Shortly after I moved back to Utah after my divorce I had the opportunity of having EFT or “Tapping” sessions facilitated by a certified practitioner my dear friend, Carolyn Garner.

In addition to being emotionally and financially devastated from my divorce, I left nearly everything I owned and the life I’d built in Florida behind. I also developed tendonitis in both of my Achilles heels two weeks before my move. I was in excruciating pain and it nearly impossible for me to stand or walk. 

My physical healing journey began when my emotional healing journey began. Everything is connected, mind, body, heart, and soul.

As Carolyn facilitated my Tapping sessions, it turns out I had more forgiving work to do than I even thought and on more people than I realized!

I had been so fixated on what I went through with my ex-husband that I was surprised to learn that much of the pain that was getting in the way of my healing was about someone else! It was in response to situations that I had been dealing with over the years that had recently been re-triggered by my move back to Utah and the trauma around it! What a revelation. I had someone else to forgive in my forgiveness process/journey.

Carolyn is a gifted energy worker and healer. She creates a safe space where you are free to be open and honest, to verbalize and express your emotions as they come up for you. She asks powerful questions as she taps on you,  facilitating your journey.

The questions she asks get right to the root and dig deep deeper than you may expect.

The profound healing I experienced both emotionally and physically after my sessions with Carolyn was astonishing. I am so very grateful to her.

Thanks to our work together I was able to walk with significantly less pain which allowed me to get a job and shortly after a car which then allowed me to receive chiropractic treatments that aligned my spine and supported my body’s natural healing process to continue to heal from my tendonitis.

Carolyn Garner

Want to learn more or work with Carolyn?

If you are in the Salt Lake Valley/Wasatch front area you of Utah you can book a session with Carolyn in person. If you’re out of the area please reach out to Carolyn to do a virtual session with her.

To explore working with Carolyn please text her at 801-875-9885

With over ten years of practice with healing modalities, Carolyn specializes in the meridians of the body, specifically the fear-based meridian known as flight or fight, as well as Energy Psychology. She is certified in Class 1 and 2 of Donna Eden’s Eden Energy Medicine Certification Program, The Emotion Code, EFT, Ho’oponopono by Joe Vitale, and is an ordained minister of Holistic Healing.

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EFT can be a useful tool to help you forgive yourself and others.

EFT/Tapping is a simple but powerful tool you can learn and use yourself, or you can work with an experienced certified practitioner to assist you in healing from emotional or physical trauma. 

Forgiveness is important in our romantic relationships because if you are unable to forgive your partner resentments build and will erode the trust, closeness, and intimacy you share.

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In romantic relationships, forgiveness is a must.

As we talked about in the last post being unable to forgive keeps our energy prisoner to the past. It makes it so we are unable to be present or to move forward into the future lives we are working to build. 

We must let go of the chains from the past that holds us back from having the love and life we desire and deserve with our partner. Forgiveness is how we do that.

Be sure to stay tuned, for Forgiveness Part 3 where we talk about the beautiful Hawaiian practice of Ho’oponopono in our journey to be able to forgive. I’ll also share my progress as I have done and continue to do the work to heal and forgive my past.

Now, I’d love to hear from you.

Are you struggling to forgive someone who hurt you? Will you try the “EFT or Tapping” to help you through it?

Please share in the comments below and be as detailed as possible. What you share could inspire or help someone else.

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